Either you can go down the dark rabbit-hole “seeking closure”, which you may never get or “finding closure” on your own. The choice is yours to make and the choice you make will shape your life. You may not have the closure you want, but you must have the healing you need.
Detachment is Liberating!
It is utterly important to understand that detachment does not mean that you should stop to love, to care, being passionate, being involved. It just means learning to “live in the moment”. Detachment means being able to be engaged wholly as long as the object is with us, and once when not, cherish memories with fondness and without judgement, anger or pain.